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"Friends are the family we choose for ourselves..."


I wear a ring on my right hand ring finger that has those words printed on the side. It's a friendship ring. My best friend and I got them and, honestly, I cherish that $10 ring almost as much as I do my engagement ring. I clean them both at the same time, I take them both off before putting lotion on my hands, washing dishes or gardening. Friendship is one of the most important things in life. Marriage, to me, is first and foremost a friendship. I believe that friendship is one of God's primary lines of communication with us. Having Christian friends that can help you in life is so important. Having a friend who is not only loving and caring but also honest and speaks truth into your life when you don't want to hear it, is invaluable. I am blessed as I look at my life - and my hands - and see that I have the two best friends imaginable. I cannot thank God enough for bringing me not only the husband I was created for, but a best friend who shares my soul... and cannot thank them enough for putting up with me!
Friends can come into your life for a short period, a long period or be lifelong. I am thankful today not only for my lifelong friends, but also those whose path crosses mine at a time we most need each other. I am so thankful for those lifelong friends I can pray for, occasionally keep in touch with, and know there are times we will need each other - and will be there for each other. I am so blessed to have people in my life who genuinely care about me enough to be honest, to talk (even if they're running late...), call me out when I need it, but still give me the encouragement and affirmation to know I am loved. Grace, love and truth. I pray I can be a friend to the wonderful people in my life that are amazing friends to me.
"The righteous person is cautious in his friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray." Proverbs 12:26

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