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So much of this last year I've been so discontented. I've been frustrated that things are moving slower than I hoped at work, school work takes so much time, my best friend lives in Africa... It's so easy to fall into playing the victim. Even with so many blessings - a job, a home, my health. It's still easy to pay more attention to the the times I feel taken advantage of, the things that make me feel like "why do these things always happen to me?" Why is this? Why is it always so much easier to be distracted by negative than celebrate the positives? Well, tonight I had an epiphany. I am so incredibly blessed. I have the most amazing and understanding husband, an amazing job that is making a difference in our community, a home, the worlds best dog, a best friend who has remained my best friend while living half a world away, and most importantly, a God who shows love, grace and understanding no matter how inward looking I become.
Usually it's around thanksgiving that I count my blessings and new years that I come up with resolutions but this June I will give up control, release my plans and desires and focus on what is good! I will stop and smell the gardenias and rosemary each morning (there are no roses in my garden!) i will consider each encounter and 'inconvenience' a blessing.

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