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Image result for open hearts wounded soulsMany of you have recently asked if we are taking another placement... the answer is a resounding yes... we are just taking some time. For a couple of reasons. The first being that this is the craziest time of the year for me work-wise and I want to be more available to help transition our kiddo(s) into our home and life. The second is that we really needed time to heal.

We still talk to Greg often and it still hurts.

We are taking some time to process and talk about what we can handle moving forward. There's no question that we will be parents again in time. I love the idea of taking a placement in time for the holidays... I've always wanted an elf of the shelf...

Until then, thank you for your thoughts and prayers for us and the future Asher kids...




So, I thought I was finished with this post... but in my effort to always be open, honest and upfront I feel compelled to edit as I sit scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed full of pregnancies, babies and growing children with tears burning in my eyes threatening to wash away my makeup and smile. There are so many days that my heart still breaks when I think of the things in life I won't experience. A positive pregnancy test. Maternity pictures. a baby shower. newborn photos. It doesn't often take long to snap out of it and remember that we all face different loses and challenges in life.
There are things I know that I could never handle, that my friends are facing with strength and grace. This is a battle that I can  (however poorly) handle.
I know that while I might not have other experiences, what I will have are memories of sweet children that desperately want to be loved and believed in. Children that I can fight for and love.
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ccolverson@gmail.com said…
We are rooting for you and the lucky kiddos that will call you Mom and Dad! The love you want to share and the family y'all will build is coming, and it will be awesome!
October 25, 2016 at 10:22 AM
Michele said…
I've been in that place. Before I adopted my two boys it seemed like the whole world was pregnant.

Hang in there!

Michele
October 26, 2016 at 8:08 AM
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